How to make friends?

I know that it is basic knowledge but I was talking to one of my cousin-in-law last week and it gave me an idea to write this article. I know that when you are in college or even working, it is easy to make friends. But what about housewives who are all alone during the day at their home? I never realized how difficult it is to make friends when you don’t know anybody in a new city. To all the newly weds and housewives who have moved to a new city or even a new country, I think you will all relate to this article. I am going to write my experience when I moved to Seattle where I didn’t know anyone.

To go forward with this article you first have to know the kind of person I am. I am reserved and I don’t tend to go and talk to strangers to make friends. But when somebody introduce me to someone, then I will talk with them. I tend to get moody and zone out sometime and I think it’s because of being alone for years. Do you realize how difficult it is to find friends who just clicks? You meet a lot of people and you just click with only some. I never realized how difficult it is to make friends until I left Dublin. I have fantastic set of friends there and I didn’t even need to work that hard to find friends. I missed them the most when I moved to Seattle.

I remember the first 3 months or so after moving to Seattle, I was busy with finding houses and settling down. But once you have settled then what? How long can you watch TV? How long can you go out and window shop? I realized that hubby was finding it difficult since after he returned home from office, all I wanted to do was talk to him or go out with him. I was yearning to talk to someone since I was alone during the day. And all he wants is a quiet time since he mostly talks in his office. It was a difficult time for us. I was mostly depressed about it and just go in this zone out mood. Then hubby told me about a meetup group of Indian ladies. I looked it up and joined their group. And that is how my journey began to make friends.

I met a lot of ladies during those meetups but I only found 2 ladies who clicked with me. Slowly, after going to meetup every month, I started making friends. It is a slow process and lucky are the few, who get good friends quickly. I found that even though you have a lot of Indians around you, very few of them are willing to make friends because they have their own friends circle and they don’t really need you. But there are some ladies who are like me, new to the city and willing to make some new friends. But it is difficult to find them. I can’t blame the other housewives since they are busy with their kids and their friends as well.

It is difficult, isn’t it? when you move and you can’t seem to find any friends. You just can’t just trust anyone and the trust builds after some time but during that time, you feel alone and you just want to talk to someone. I felt like that throughout my first year here in this city. And you know the worst part? I was pregnant and I didn’t have anyone to talk to. I didn’t know what to get for the baby or where to get it. For me, it was all trial and error. Now I have a list of things to tell all first time mom’s. You do find lot of stuffs in the internet but you are confused about what to get. All my friends in this country live in east coast and I remember calling them and talking to them about the baby stuffs. But I wished I had someone  near by. I won’t ever forget that when I was admitted in the hospital, nobody knew because I didn’t have friends here. I felt really alone that time. I think I was depressed most of my first year. I then realized how lucky I was to have had some amazing friends in Dublin. If I was in Dublin, they would have visited me and gave me lot of advice’s and I would never have felt alone.

So my advice to all the newbie’s to a new city is find a group or even visit you nearby temple and you will start the process of making friends. Find a group which you are interested in, like a hobby group or even just volunteer somewhere so that you can make friends. I know that it will be tedious but you have to start somewhere, right? It might take time but at least you will find someone who can become your friend. But most of all, don’t think that you will never find such friends because you will but it will  just take time.

Motivation…

How do you motivate yourself? I love blogging and I love makeup but ever since I decided to stop getting anymore makeup, my motivation just dropped and sunk like a stone in a pond. I still have a lot of stuffs to review but somehow I can’t seem to motivate myself to write. I am in a limb. I need the energy and idea to get started. I have ideas about travel and motherhood tales but at the end when I sit in front of my laptop, words fails to come. I wrote an article last week and at the end, when I read it, It sounded pretty bad, unimaginative and like I am writing an essay because I am forced to :roll: .

I have tried to take interest in other areas. I wanted to try manga art. I have been fascinated by the art and comics. Once upon a time I used to sketch and I thought maybe I could try it. So I went to the library and got some books on beginners manga art. Never knew it was so difficult. I think I lost touch with sketching and it took forever to just draw an eye :roll: . I was getting frustrated about not getting it right. I really want to do something creative and I didn’t know what. I do want to start blogging again and be regular but somehow when I sit to write reviews, words fail me.

Am I lacking motivation or do I have writer’s block? I am frustrated by the lack of words. I sound like an idiot. I have started reading health books these days to get some tips. I am forcing myself to do some exercise at least twice a week. I think I am just getting old because I need a lot of break between my workout days :( . 10 years worth of junk has been accumulated in my body and I just can’t get rid of it within few months. I need to be strict with my food but when I am hungry, I get angry and it tends to mess with my day.

Give me ideas or maybe even motivation :) . I feel lost and I don’t know what to do.

Double Chocolate Banana Bread

I had craved for some plain old chocolate cake and when I saw some leftover banana’s, I decided to try this recipe and it was really good. My daughter loved it and she kept eating this. I found this recipe via Serious eats website which I LOVE. They have the most amazing recipes. The original recipe was done by Smitten Kitchen . I love her photos of food. You should all check it out.

INGREDIENTS

    • 3 medium-to-large very ripe bananas
    • 1/2 cup (115 grams) butter, melted
    • 3/4 cup (145 grams) brown sugar (I use dark here; either light or dark work)
    • 1 large egg
    • 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
    • 1 teaspoon baking soda
    • 1/4 teaspoon table salt
    • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon (optional; I skip it)
    • 1 cup (125 grams) all-purpose flour
    • 1/2 cup Dutch-process cocoa powder
    • 1 cup (about 6 ounces or 170 grams) semisweet or bittersweet chocolate chunks or chips

INSTRUCTIONS

    1. Heat your oven to 350°F. Butter a 9×5-inch loaf pan, or spray it with a nonstick baking spray.
    2. Mash bananas in the bottom of a large bowl. (You’ll have a little over 1 cup mashed banana total.) Whisk in melted butter, then brown sugar, egg, and vanilla. Place baking soda, salt, cinnamon (if using), flour and cocoa powder in a sifter or fine-mesh strainer and sift over wet ingredients. (My cocoa is almost always lumpy, so this is essential for me.) Stir dry and wet ingredients with a spoon until just combined. Stir in chocolate chunks or chips.
    3. Pour into prepared pan and bake 55 to 65 minutes, until a tester or toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out batter-free. (A melted chocolate chip smear is expected, however.) Cool in pan for 10 to 15 minutes, then run a knife around the edge and invert it out onto a cooling rack. Serve warm or at room temperature.
    4. The banana bread will keep for up to 4 days at room temperature. I keep mine wrapped in foil. It goes without saying that it has never actually lasted that long.

Double Chocolate Banana Bread

Double Chocolate Banana Bread

Update after a break

How are you my readers? Did you all miss me :D . I know that its been nearly a month since I blogged. I was on vacation and after I returned, I was jet lagged and didn’t feel like using my brain to blog :D . I am feeling lost after a jam-packed break. Perhaps, I should no say that it was a break but busy vacation.

Moving on, we went to India for our brother-in-law’s wedding and that why we were so busy out there. It seems as if we were travelling most of the time and we also fell sick in between :( . Lets start with the travel with our toddler :roll: , It was fine when we were travelling from here since the flight was in the evening, she was so excited at first and then she got bored in between. At least she slept for 5 hours or so but it is very tiring to deal with a bored toddler :( . She didn’t like the food in the flight and she didn’t want to watch the movies, etc, etc. By the time we landed in India, We were so frustrated and sleepless. But at least we had my parents to look after her while we rested :) .

The next 2 days as fine since we had to do some shopping for the wedding but we weren’t out for a long time, just 4 hours or so. Then we had to travel to my in-laws house which was tough with a toddler. She kept talking non-stop and was bored because we had a 1 hour flight and then 4 hrs of car drive to reach there :roll:. so basically it took us an entire day with all the travelling to airport and reaching in-laws house. We have never been so frustrated by travel until we have hit the toddler stage. With all the spoiling done by the grandparents she was having tantrums most of the time :( .

I wanted to hit all my favorite food places but alas we didn’t have time or energy as well. But we did get food poisoning :roll: , yup, you read it right. We had horrible food poisoning that we ended up taking antibiotics. We were drinking fresh coconut water every day and we were fine by the 4th day but man it was painful :) . I missed the food the most. I wanted to eat lot of different food but I was mostly eating sweets. I thought that with all the sugar I am eating, I would definitely put on weight but with the food poisoning and the travelling, I didn’t put on any weight :D .

The flight back was horrible as well with her whining all the way and we didn’t sleep at all :( . We were beyond tired and we had jet lag for about 2 weeks. I was tired most of the time and I was eating  junk. I didn’t keep my eye on the food and by 3 weeks, I have put on 2 lbs :( . I really need to get back to eating healthy and doing some exercise. I am so freaking lazy and I really didn’t have the motivation to do it. It is really hard to wean myself from sugar and that is one of my must-do for being healthy. I do drink at least 1 liter of water everyday.

We were busy after returning from our vacation. We had our 10th Anniversary weekend after that and hubby booked us in a resort nearby and last week my brother visited us and we were busy taking him out to Portland.

I am slowly getting back to my routine and hopefully back to blogging as well. I have long list of things to do but I just don’t want to do it :D . Hopefully I will be regularly blogging from now on :) .

Beautiful Sunset from the resort

Beautiful Sunset from the resort

Sonia Kashuk Eye on Neutral – Matte/Shimmer Limited Edition Eye Palette

This was a Christmas limited edition and was available on Target. It retailed for about $30. I saw this about a month ago on clearance for about $20. This was a popular palette in the blogger’s world and I really wanted to have this one in my collection. I am a neutral eye shadow person so I thought this would be perfect for me.

The packaging is quite small. I seriously didn’t expect that :D . Somehow I thought it would be bigger. It just fits in your hands. It is a cream color packaging with gold embossed name on it. It is quite sleek and sturdy. Inside one side has a mirror and the other side has shadows. All the eye shadows are neutral to neutral smoky eye shadows. They have half matte shadows and half shimmers. Overall it has about 24 eye shadows in them.

The colors are so pigmented and opaque. I love both the shimmer and the matte. This is a perfect size travel palette. And the best thing is it even has a shade which is perfect for using as an eyebrow color. The swatches are random color and you can see the pigmentation of them. They have different shades of gold, taupe, brown, grey and black.

Overall, I think for the money it is a very good palette. I am obsessed about Sonia Kashuk lately. I never realized that they could be this good :) .

Lip Combo #3

One of the recent lip combo I am loving is Rimmel Kate Lipstick in 17 and Prestige Lip Liner in Poppy. The Rimmel lipstick is a tad on the cooler side. It actually washes me out. Then I found this lip combo which works for me. It still gives me a pale peach but with this combination it gives me more of a warmer color.