Motherhood Tales : How do you manage to make a time for yourself?

All the ladies with kids knows that it’s almost impossible to have a time for yourself especially if the ladies are homemakers 🙂 . You are with your kids 24/7 and it begins to get you. It’s been tough on me after returning from my India trip. Baby A has begun to walk and I have to be on constant alert on what she is doing? She now knows what she wants 🙄 and that is a problem since she wants all my attention on her all the time. I was beginning to go crazy when I started taking her out most of the days. She loves going out and watching other people but the downside is that I began to spend wherever I go 😦 . Surprisingly, most of the stuffs I buy is for her 🙂 .

She is almost 14 months old and it tough to entertain her. She is not a person who sits in one place and plays. She get bored very easily and I don’t know how to entertain her most of the time. So I decided to join the toddler class near my home and she has enjoyed it 🙂 . I really like the classes and it’s not like a class where all the kids play and the mother looks after them. This toddler class is for 2 hrs and 1/2 is the play time hour which has a different theme every week ( like rainbows, birds, etc) and all the toys resemble the theme. The next half an hour is parents class where the teacher discuss topics like managing anger, recognising emotions in the baby, etc . The next half and hour is snack time where each parent has to take turn in bringing snack for all the kids. The last half an hour is singing and dancing 🙂 and she loves this time. The best thing is this class is for ages 9-24 and we are the youngest in this class 🙂 .

Other than that, I did try to leave her in a day care for 3 hrs, twice a week. But even after leaving her for almost 6 weeks, she kept crying. So we decided not to send her to that day care and maybe change to some other one. It is tough leaving her there when she is crying her heart out but I need a break from her for just sitting and drinking tea. It’s also tough when she gets sick because she is cranky and wants me to carry her all the time and it gets tough on me by the end of the day. For the past 2 days, she is teething so she wants me to carry her and cries most of the time. It totally drains my energy by the end of the day and I am getting backache because of carrying her most of the time.

I do meet some friends atleast once a week. But how do you entertain her for the rest of the week? I think some ladies join classes most of the days and some are ok managing their child 24/7 but I am not one of those 😀 . I need my own time. It’s tough to balance to have your own time versus your guilt. Because I do feel tremendously guilty when I think about leaving her in a day care and when you see her crying, all I think about during those time is her 🙂 . It is tough being a mother.

How do I manage to have time for myself? It’s mostly after hubby returns home. He comes home by 6 pm and by 7 pm, I give Baby A to him and then its my time (sorta, only after I finish cooking my dinner 😀 ) . This is the time I browse the net and try to write my blog 🙂 . It is tough to think about writing my blog when all I want to do is relax and read a book. Hubby also takes over during the weekend, Thank God for that. But I would love to know how other women make time for themselves?

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3 thoughts on “Motherhood Tales : How do you manage to make a time for yourself?

  1. Preetha says:

    Hi Charan ,

    Till he was 4 he was taking 2 hrs nap at noon after lunch and thats the time i normally wait for everyday to spend sometime doing what i really want to do … So i make sure he naps for 2 hrs everyday and i workout , watch movies or browse peacefully during that time . When he was 41/2 yrs old , he stopped napping completely 😦 and now it is even more difficult to keep him busy .. Since he is grown , he is bored at home especially when there are holidays in school . We both go crazy 🙂 .

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